Child Discipline – Are You a Permissive Or Authoritative Parent?

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The two parenting styles – authoritative and non-authoritative – are based on different psychological processes. However, they also have different implications for child development.

In permissive parenting, parents tend to give importance to the child’s needs and wants. They expect their children to take care of themselves and do what they say.

On the other hand, in a non-authoritative parenting, parents give much importance to the needs of the child and give little importance to the parent’s needs. They also assume that children will know what they want and will do the same. These parenting styles are often adopted by divorced or separated couples.

Authoritative Parenting

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An authoritative style usually involves rules such as “No touching”Pay attention to me”. Children in this kind of parenting tend to act up when their parents don’t pay attention to them. They have a strong desire to be listened to and respond to what the parent says. It may even be that the children do not want to be ignored because of their shyness.

Authoritative parenting is very effective at reducing children’s shyness and may even help them become more outgoing in general. Children who are well-behaved and are given attention from an authoritative parent tend to be happier than children who are treated unkindly.

Authoritative parenting is also very effective in disciplining disobedient children. But this style also tends to cause problems with kids who are too independent.

Non-Authoritative Parenting

Non-authoritative parenting, on the other hand, has some disadvantages. Children in this parenting style tend to feel neglected or even abused by their parents.

Children who are uninvolved and who have little interest in what their parents do tend to rebel against their parents. This is the reason why many parents resort to using force to discipline their kids. Non-authoritative parenting is also ineffective in teaching children about boundaries, responsibility, and other important life skills.

There are some disadvantages of the non-permissive style that parents need to consider. A non-permissive parent may sometimes refuse to teach boundaries to their children. This makes them less likely to encourage children to stick to the rules.


Other disadvantages of this style are that it can lead to resentment among parents. If a parent wants to make a good impression on their kids, they need to be a person with whom their kids can build strong and healthy relationships.

When a non-authoritative parent is away from home, their kids may take the lead and try to take control of his or her life. Even worse, they may resort to hurting their parents.

Non-Permissive Parenting

Non-permissive parenting may result in fights between the parents and their children. The children tend to be manipulative and hostile towards their parents and to their own parents.

Non-permissive parenting can also result in the child having a lack of respect for authority figures. Children with this type of parenting style do not listen and are easily influenced.

Authoritative parenting can lead to low self-esteem among children. Their children tend to be passive and tend to turn out to be more aggressive. This makes the parent appear unfaithful and manipulative.

Children with authoritarian parenting styles may have a low self-image and may turn out to be manipulative and aggressive. Children with this type of parenting style may also turn out to be more violent towards people outside the family circle.

Final Verdict

Children with authoritarian parenting styles may also have difficulty in their social development. They may not be able to develop good friendships.

Parents should also be prepared to take criticism from their children. This should not make them stop being their own person.

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